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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
Let me introduce our guests.
Today, the studio seems...
- very bright. - That's right.
Kim Se Jung and Seor In A!
(Kim Se Jung and Seor In A, the cast members of "School 2017")
San Deul and Gong Chan of B1A4!
- Hello. - Welcome.
Kim Min Gue!
(Kim Min Gue, the actor with a sweet face)
He's so handsome!
Se Jeong is not only a singer, but also is an actress now.
- Exactly. - Yes.
- What is it that she can't do? - She got a lead role.
- You're flattering me. - It was your first time, right?
I heard the rumor...
that actors and actresses fall in love while filming a drama,
- and enjoy romance. - Right.
- Just like Joong Ki and Hye Kyo. - Exactly.
However, I played a role of a student,
so there was a clear line. I was disappointed.
You wanted to go further.
You should drop out of school if you want that.
She should drop out of school if she wants to go further?
How do you act on a date in real life?
I tend to act like a man.
- Really? You lead your boyfriend? - Yes.
Don't ask that.
- Then... - Don't be shy.
Min Gue became the talk of the town as soon as he made his debut.
People said he seems unreal.
He made his debut on a TV show where the guests sing.
I sang on my first appearance on a TV show.
- I heard you sing so well. - Right.
But we have many singers here.
(We're excited!)
- I'll sing a little bit. - Okay.
If you think you didn't do well, you can just apologize.
(He's nervous.)
(I love you, I love you)
(Well...)
Although it's too late now
I want you to apologize lightly.
- Why would you say that? - I want him to apologize.
I was surprised. Why did he sing in such a low key?
- The song sounded so different. - He did well, but...
(I am sorry.)
Today, we have three worries as always.
Let's check out the keywords.
The three worries.
"Is This Real?"
"I'm All Alone".
"Both Are Crazy!"
Let's begin with "Is This Real?"
I was so surprised that I couldn't believe this happened in real life.
Hello. I'm a housewife in my 40s, and I have a 4-month-old son.
I'm sending my story to Hello as I'm grasping at straws.
It's because my husband has the worst potty mouth in the world.
When he drives, he says, "Gosh. You jerk!"
"Get out of my way, you crazy jerk!"
- I guess he swears all the time. - When he talks on the phone,
he says, "My gosh. You little brat!"
"You're talking nonsense. Darn it!"
What's wrong with him? He swears whenever he talks to others.
That's not all.
"Honey, could you wash the dishes before you go to work?"
"Gosh. You're ruining my day even before it started."
(My goodness!)
(Is this a true story?)
"Why would you be such a witch this early?"
- Does he say that to his wife? - To his wife?
- He swears at me. - Oh, my.
- He must be out of his mind. - When our baby cries,
he says, "Gosh, he's so noisy. Do something about him."
"He's a baby. Babies cry. What do you want me to do?"
"Gosh. Darn it!"
My goodness.
- He swears in front of his baby. - What's wrong with him?
I didn't marry him to hear him swearing all the time.
I am frustrated to tears every day.
Do you think I'll be okay living like this?
Please help me stop my husband's potty mouth.
(Please help me stop my husband's potty mouth!)
Normally, we applaud when the story ends,
but we're all too shocked.
It's not something we should applaud.
Many people swear often, but he's on another level.
- He swears at his wife and baby. - How could he swear at his wife?
- No one does that. - He swears in everyday talk.
He has no manners.
Is there anyone who swears a lot around you?
Yes, but they don't offend me.
- Some people do that. - They swear like this...
while talking pleasantly.
Do they swear like this?
I meant, in a friendly atmosphere.
That's good. I should try that too.
"Gosh. Darn it."
(Did I do that?)
What she meant...
Let's meet with this guest.
Please come out.
(Who is suffering because of her husband's potty mouth?)
(Kang Sun Joo)
(Welcome.)
Does your husband really swear that often?
- He swears a lot. - I see.
Whenever things don't go his way,
- When something bothers him. - he swears.
- He uses a lot of swear words. - I see.
- He doesn't care about the age. - Pardon?
- The age of the person he talks to? - Yes.
- Regardless of the person's age. - Regardless of the age.
- My goodness. - Behind their backs?
- Does he swear in front of them? - He swears in front of them too.
(He even swore right in front of them.)
Does he swear at you too?
Yes, he does. If I say something...
when he's in a bad mood,
he tells me to stop talking nonsense.
What did you say to him?
My husband has a big belly and drinks a lot.
So I told him to exercise and lose weight.
- And then he says... - "Shut it."
Calm down.
- I'm sorry. - I understand you.
Your child is very young.
- We have a four-month-old baby. - Yes.
I was comforting him as he was crying.
My husband said,
"That's so annoying. He's noisy."
- Because the baby was crying? - To his own son?
I said he's just a baby, and we can't do anything about it.
Then he said that I was bothering him when he was going to work.
He said swear words to me.
When did he start to swearing that much?
- Did he swear when you dated him? - You must've known that about him.
We were working at the same company when we started dating.
- You met him at your company. - He was famous at work.
- For what? - For his potty mouth.
- Really? - For his potty mouth?
He swore at anyone regardless of place and time.
- He swore all the time. - That's right.
- Why did you fall for him? - Except for his swearing habit,
he was nice. He helped me a lot too.
- He was nice except for swearing. - I saw a good side of him too.
So, he helped you while swearing.
- He was nice to me. - "Darn it. Here. It's for you."
Like this, Right?
(He's hilarious.)
I thought he was a nice person...
- as I saw a good side of him. - Why do you let it slide?
- No, it's not like that. - After he swears at you.
- You don't? - At first,
- I told him to stop swearing. - Yes.
Whenever I told him that, he swore even more harshly.
- He swore even more harshly? - Yes.
He swore more harshly. What frustrates me more...
is that he doesn't speak to me after we have a fight.
- What's that? - Who?
- My husband. - I see.
My husband doesn't speak to me.
- How long does it last? - He has many problems.
In the beginning, it lasted only 1 or 2 days.
Later, it lasted 2 weeks. Recently, it lasted 1 month.
- He didn't speak to you that long? - One month?
- Did he not say a word to you? - No, he didn't.
I'm sure he's dying to swear right now.
Has he been silent for one month until now?
It's been two weeks now.
- It's been two weeks? - Yes.
Are you saying that he's still not speaking to you?
We didn't talk on our way here.
- So... - Until the moment we arrived.
We rode in the same car, but he didn't say a word.
I texted him that the staff members of Hello...
- asked him to call them. - Yes.
- He read your message, right? - You must've shared a waiting room.
- Didn't you two talk to each other? - No, we didn't.
Are you worrying about this seriously right now?
To be honest, as it's getting worse and worse,
I thought I might have to get a divorce, and it's the last straw.
- Coming here is the last straw. - That's why I'm here.
(We hope there will be a change.)
I think her husband is here because he wants to change.
- He looks nice and playful. - Exactly.
- I can't imagine him swearing. - He looks like a nice person.
Let's meet with her husband. Hello. It's nice to meet you.
- Hello. - Welcome.
He doesn't look like he swears a lot.
You don't look like you swear a lot.
What do you think about your wife's worry?
I was surprised when I got a call from the writer of this show.
I don't think it's serious enough to be on this show.
- It's that serious. - Did you not think...
- it's not that serious? - I don't think it's serious,
and there's a big misunderstanding about what my wife said.
So, are you here to resolve the misunderstanding?
- Yes, I am. - You don't think you did wrong.
Yes, I guess he thinks like that.
- That's right. - Swearing is...
bad regardless of what it's about.
- And you swear at your own wife. - It's...
It's not that I swear at a total stranger.
I swear at my close friends and my work colleagues I'm close to.
I just swear lightly at them habitually.
I swear at my wife...
- only when we're having a fight. - Only when you're fighting?
Yes. I don't swear at her for no reason.
- He still shouldn't swear at her. - Even if you're fighting,
swearing at your wife is too harsh.
- He's right. - It's because...
Imagine that your wife swears at you just the same way you do to her.
She swears at me too.
- Just the same way you do? - Yes.
- What are we supposed to do? - But...
- I know. - it's not the same.
Her worry has been resolved.
Goodness. What's going on?
- An eye for an eye. - When two people fight,
one of them hit the other, and the other hits him back.
Your wife doesn't swear at you first, right?
Which one swears first?
I admit that I swore at her first recently.
- Recently? - Are you saying...
that your wife has sworn at you first before?
In the early years of our marriage, she swore at me first.
- Pardon? - She swore at me first.
- Hold on a second. - When we were fighting,
my husband kept saying mean things to me.
At first, I said, "Stop it. Don't say such things."
And then, I swore at him first.
- What did you say to him? - The "F" word.
- And... - "Stop it now!"
- That's right. - Like this?
That's right. After I swore at him,
he called me names like "trash".
- What? - We exchanged swear words.
- Really? - "Trash"?
I meant that she has a potty mouth.
Men swear more harshly than women. Aren't I right?
- In a situation like that, - I swear more harshly.
your wife must lose all the time.
Sir, we heard you swore even when your baby was crying.
- He lost his temper. - You lost your temper.
- He said the baby was too loud. - Why would you be angry...
because your baby cries?
She was feeding him when he wasn't crying because he was hungry.
I didn't want to talk to her because we had had a fight.
Watching her doing that made me feel frustrated.
So I sighed three times like this.
- That's ridiculous. - I sighed three times,
and she told me not to sigh. She was the one who raised her voice.
- What happened next? - Did he only sigh?
- That's not true. - I didn't say anything.
He was drinking beer right under the air conditioner.
He kept saying that he was annoyed while drinking.
- So I told him that babies cry... - Is this true?
I think I did so.
It was wrong of you to swear because your baby was crying.
- That's right. - I was curious about this.
- He's your eldest child, right? - Yes.
- I think you had a baby quite late. - That's right.
In fact, it wasn't my first pregnancy.
- I miscarried my baby before. - I see.
Many couples go through that these days.
In the early years of our marriage, I worked too...
- Now... - It's okay.
Oh, no.
- She has unresolved feelings. - That's right.
We may not fully understand why she's so distressed and crying.
What exactly did you say when you swore at her?
Please show us how you swore. We'll censor it.
- Show us how you swear when angry. - Show us.
(Please understand us as it's necessary for resolving her worry.)
(Shut your mouth!)
(Everyone is shocked.)
"Shut your mouth."
(Shut your mouth!)
- What's your age gap? - I wonder that too.
He's four years younger than me.
- What? - He's younger than you?
(Her husband is 4 years younger than her.)
- Why is everyone surprised? - How could you?
- My gosh. - He's unbelievable. So...
Do you swear a lot at work and when you meet other people?
I worked at the company where I first met my wife...
for about 4 years and 2 months. I'm working at a different company now,
but the company acknowledged my competency.
However, it's true that I often heard...
that my only flaw at work was my potty mouth.
Since I started a new job, I haven't been swearing.
I'm trying.
Why don't you stop swearing at home too?
I swear only when we're fighting.
Only when you're fighting.
But that's bad. You shouldn't swear when you're fighting either.
Your emotions become intense when you fight.
If you swear in that situation, it'll hurt your wife even more.
You haven't been talking to each other for two weeks.
What's the reason?
It takes two to tango.
It's not like I ignore my wife when she talks to me.
She doesn't talk to me either.
That's why we haven't been talking to each other for two weeks.
- You could talk to her first. - Let me tell you something.
There's something that makes me even more upset.
At first, I tried to...
talk to him first.
- You tried to make up. - After fighting.
I tried to make up.
I told him to send me an e-mail if it was hard to speak to me.
- You initiated a conversation. - I tried to message him too.
But he has never tried to make up first.
- Never? - Never.
What's the reason?
Why do you never try to make up first?
- Do you feel like you lose? - It's my pride.
- Sorry? - It's my pride.
To talk to her first, it feels like I lose.
What do you gain by protecting your pride?
Nothing. I regret it too.
- But you made up in the end. - Yes.
Why did you do that?
We're married with a kid.
We can't get divorced. We have to make up.
I just need a chance to make up.
- Look. - But...
That's so stupid...
and selfish of you.
Your wife is considering divorcing you.
Haven't you noticed how serious the situation is?
I hate to fight too.
We've been fighting every month lately.
I do know I didn't get married to live like this.
- You do? - Yes.
But my wife complains about so many things.
I usually keep things to myself.
Can you tell us...
why you're unhappy about your wife?
First of all... I've never talked about this before.
Please go ahead.
When it comes to food, I'm like a child.
I'm a picky eater.
I don't like food my wife makes.
Her soup is the worst soup I've ever tasted.
- And you didn't say anything? - No.
Please go on.
Another small thing is...
And you ate it?
I get up at 6 and leave for work at 7.
She could come to the door and see me leave,
but she's lying in bed...
- with her eyes closed. - It hurts you.
It hurts me...
even though I understand her.
- It gets built up. - I never talk about these things.
Please tell us more.
That's about it.
Your wife can't go to bed until late at night.
Why do you want her to come to the door when you leave for work?
I understand her, but it still...
- hurts. - That's understandable.
What kind of food do you like?
Canned meat.
- Sausages. - Eggs.
Make only those then.
I did. What he said is unfair.
With our 50-day-old baby on my back,
I made chicken soup for my husband on a hot day.
He hasn't thanked me once to this day.
Have you ever said...
thank you or sorry to your wife?
Have you ever thanked her for working until late?
Not as far as I remember.
- You haven't. - You haven't.
Does he share house chores with you?
He doesn't.
Even when I was pregnant,
I had to clean the bathroom.
I asked him to do it for me but he said no because his back hurt.
When I asked him to take out the garbage,
he said, "It smells." I can smell it too.
If I say anything more, it becomes a fight.
Is what she said true? Why don't you help her out?
I don't help her out when we're fighting.
She says you've never helped her out.
When we were on good terms, I did the dishes...
and took out the garbage.
After fighting, you don't talk to each other.
Let's say you haven't been talking for three weeks.
You don't help her out at all during that time?
I don't.
I mean...
You do the chores only when you're on good terms?
How old are you?
I know what's going on.
I always try to figure out whether a person is a grown-up or a kid.
Some people are grown-ups, and some people are kids.
A grown-up should marry a grown-up, a kid a kid.
When a grown-up marries a kid,
it becomes a disaster.
You're a grown-up and a kid.
Even if you're still a kid,
you have a family to support.
You should try to grow up.
- Of course. - If you want to remain a kid,
you're not ready to start a family.
That's how you should look at it.
- You're right. - Is there any other problem?
He seems like an impulsive person.
I'm fine with him not talking to me after fighting.
But he doesn't take care of our baby at all either.
He doesn't even look at him.
He never looks after him or hugs him.
He doesn't do anything.
I had a miscarriage before.
I thought we'd never be able to have a baby.
I was very concerned.
That's why our son is so precious to me.
He's my treasure.
I take care of him all the time.
My wrists ache at night.
- They ache. - My hands too.
Of course.
Does he maybe bathe the baby? He must be precious to him too.
Not at all.
He doesn't bathe him either?
Never. When the father bathes the son,
- it helps the relationship. - Totally.
- It helps emotional development. - Yes.
I told my husband, "Bathing together is good for the relationship."
He said, "Our relationship is good enough. We don't need it."
Our son is four months old now.
- He hasn't bathed him once yet. - Never?
- Does he use telepathy? - Hold on.
You haven't bathed your son once in the last four months?
- No. - Why not?
At first, he was so small.
- I was afraid of dropping him. - That's understandable.
These days, it's because we recently had a fight.
Because you had a fight?
We're not speaking to each other.
What about when you're on good terms?
How is bathing your son related to you two fighting?
(How are they related?)
Do you usually do only what you want?
It's hard for me to say.
You must know.
You haven't bathed your son once.
- That's not normal. - It's hard to understand.
Regardless of whether you had a fight.
I didn't know it was that bad.
Your son is precious to you too, right?
He is.
- You love him so much, right? - Yes.
And you still can't bathe him?
I think I can now.
Why can you sometimes do it and sometimes not?
If your son is so precious to you.
The thing is,
because these things have been repeating,
I'm suffering from depression.
I sit down alone in the bathroom and cry.
Looking at my son smiling,
I feel so guilty.
So I cry with him in my arms.
Did you know she was crying a lot alone?
- No. - You didn't.
How do you feel?
I do understand her,
but since I changed my job,
- I've been under a lot of stress. - Of course.
I have to adjust to a new environment.
I feel like my wife only thinks about herself and our son,
but not me.
Is your husband very busy?
Yes, he's busy playing games.
He looks for his phone as soon as he wakes up,
and he falls asleep while playing with his phone.
He goes out drinking with his friends and colleagues too.
Does he sometimes stay out all night?
He does. He's been doing it more and more often.
Often?
- How often? - About twice a week.
- About twice a week. - He stays out?
He came home around 5am when I was pregnant too.
- When you were pregnant too? - Yes.
Why do you stay out all night?
My new workplace is an hour away from home.
When I'm out drinking,
I often stay out until 2am, 3am, and 4am.
I have to leave home around 7am to arrive at work by 8am.
- Then... - Where do you sleep?
Why don't you just go home early? Where do you sleep?
At a sauna or at the office.
Most people commute...
for 40 minutes to an hour.
Many people in Seoul commute for more than an hour.
Everyone commutes for about an hour.
Who commutes for more than an hour?
- See? - Raise your hand high.
There are many.
- Look at that. - Who stays out every night?
Are they all supposed to stay out?
It's not a reasonable excuse.
But I always let my wife know.
What about when you had a fight?
I don't call her.
Can your wife stay out when you're fighting?
- Exactly. - No.
Come on.
(Why is he so proud?)
Why can't she do it?
We have a baby.
- Because of the baby? - Yes.
What if she takes the baby with her?
I haven't thought about that, but she wouldn't do that.
She wouldn't do that?
You trust her.
You believe she wouldn't do that.
The man sitting next to him must be a colleague of his.
Hello. Nice to meet you.
Hello.
Well...
How do you feel now?
In the pre-interview,
I didn't understand why you picked his story.
I wondered if he was that trashy.
But now...
How do you feel now?
I hope she recycles this trash...
- as soon as possible. - At work,
is he just a fun person...
who swears a bit?
- Yes. - How is he at work?
He's the life of the party.
When Dong Yeob makes dirty jokes,
it offends no one, right?
It's just like that...
when he swears too.
What do you think about him swearing to his wife?
That's trashy of him.
You should never swear...
to your spouse.
Are you married?
- I've been married for 6 years. - 6 years?
You're more experienced. Have you ever sworn to your wife?
Never.
We fight, but we never swear.
Your work must be hard since you are in the same company.
- Yes. - Do you never help out at home?
I can't say that I am the perfect husband.
I am being honest since my wife is watching.
- That's right. - I am being honest.
What about when your child was little?
I gave my child a bath from time to time.
Cleaning up the house... I guess I didn't do much.
- The thing is, - Perhaps we will see him next week.
what's important is...
how you talk to your spouse.
That's right. A soft answer turns away wrath.
"You are doing all the hard work. I am sorry."
"I am sorry that I can't help." If you use soft words,
your wife will feel better even if she is tired.
However, the way he talks is problematic.
"You laze around at home." I was so surprised to hear that.
She was sleeping because she was tired.
How could he take such an annoying tone with her...
and hurt her feelings?
- It's unbelievable. - Is he apologetic for staying out?
No, he never is. He never says that he is sorry.
- What does he say? - He doesn't say anything.
You must say, "Go away if you are going to be that way."
When I say that, he says, "You go away."
"My father bought us this house."
- "You go away." - He is a child.
- How childish! - He is a child.
He is worse than a child.
"You haven't contributed anything."
Did you regret saying that?
"I was too childish."
- I did. I thought it at that time. - You did?
Did you apologize later?
I didn't apologize for those words.
He tells me to go away every time we fight.
He said it when we fought the most recently too.
Once it starts, it becomes a habit.
- She says she can't live with me. - Why can't he more generous?
- What? - Every time we fight, she says,
"I can't live with someone like you."
That's when I tell her to leave the house.
Sun Joo isn't saying those words out of the blue.
No fight is one person's fault. I am sure your wife is fault too.
However, many of those fights were made bigger because of you.
Since you are a man, you should be more accepting.
It sounds like there is hardly anyone you can lean on.
Where do you find comfort?
My parents.
My parents live in Iksan, Jeolla Province.
- That's far. - That's too far.
My parents call me sometimes.
Then...
My mom asks if my husband is good to me.
You can't tell your parents much because they will worry.
I tell her, "My husband is good to me."
"He helps a lot at home."
"Don't worry." I tell her that.
This is something that really aggravated me.
One time, we went to visit my parents.
My husband talked badly about my mother behind her back.
- What? - Why?
He messaged his friends...
that he is uncomfortable.
"The food isn't to my taste."
My mother had butchered a chicken and made a chicken dish...
- for her son-in-law. - She had butchered a chicken.
My brother lit a fire in the brazier under the sun...
- to cook the chicken. - They made a lot of effort.
My mom tore the meat for him with her hands.
- My husband said... - That's the right way to prepare chicken.
that she is like a country cousin.
"What is your mother-in-law like?" "She is a total country cousin."
(The stories are never-ending.)
"She tore meat with her hands, but it was very tough."
"I forced myself to eat it."
I hit my husband awake and said,
"Is this the kind of person you are?"
He apologized, but it left a scar in my heart.
Of course it did.
Why did you marry Sun Joo?
Upon seeing that she is very good to my parents,
- I decided to marry her. - That's when you decided.
Then you should be nice to your mother-in-law.
Let's say she messaged her friends,
"I wonder if my mother-in-law celebrated giving birth..."
"to this kind of a son by having seaweed soup."
Let's say you read that.
How would you feel?
Let's say she laughed about it.
I don't go through my wife's phone.
(The stories are never-ending.)
Don't lie. I know you did it once.
This is the way you talk. "I don't do that."
"Only she does that." What are you, a child?
You are a man and the head of a family.
How frustrating! What worries you the most about the future?
My father verbally abused his children in the past.
People in the countryside are like that.
I walked on eggshells and became less confident...
- because of that. - Of course you did.
I don't want my child to become...
someone like me.
I am afraid it will happen.
You are afraid you will lose confidence.
I think he will lose confidence and walk on eggshells.
We asked Sun Joo in a preliminary interview...
to write down the swear words her husband uses.
He doesn't think this is serious.
I was shocked by the list.
I had never read anything like it.
I can't read them with emotions...
because it will offend the audience.
- I will simply read them. - Please be understanding.
We will bleep out the swear words...
- when this episode airs. - I must read it like a textbook.
Otherwise, the atmosphere will turn strange.
"Don't be annoying in the morning, you..."
"I didn't tell you to do the dishes right now."
"You can do it later or tomorrow. You just need to do it, you..."
"Don't be so..."
"I can't believe I married that..."
"You just need to..."
"I told you to be quiet."
"I can't live with someone like you."
"This is my house, you... Don't act like you own it."
"You didn't contribute anything. You should be the one to leave."
"I left because I didn't want to see your ugly mug, you..."
This is...
Do you remember saying these words?
- Yes. - You do?
- Do you remember? - How does it feel to hear them?
- I shouldn't have said those words. - You swore at her in anger.
- That's right. - For goodness' sake.
Listen. Even if you are angry...
- You know, - There are words you shouldn't use.
these are words you would never use to your colleagues.
What did you think? This is how he talks to his wife.
I was shocked. When you read them,
I almost left. "I shouldn't have come."
I didn't know he would use such terrible swear words.
How did it feel to listen to these words?
My behavior can't be justified, but my wife uses the same words.
- Really? - Yes. She uses them when we fight.
She learned those swear words from you.
Please don't say, "She does it too."
- What a loser! - Please don't say that.
A husband shouldn't be like that.
You should be considerate of your wife.
"How would she feel if I say this?"
If you learn that much, you will know...
you should change your ways. For an example,
let's say you made a suggestion to your boss.
"You piece of... Don't bother me in the morning."
"You complete... This is my company. Leave."
(This is my company. Leave.)
How would you feel?
I am serious.
How does it feel? Dong Yeob swore at you.
- It feels bad. - Of course it does.
- It feels terrible, right? - Yes.
King Sejong would be so upset if he learns...
the language he made is being used this way.
What are your wife and son to you?
They are the ones who make me wake up early and work hard all day.
- They are the reason for my being. - The reason for your being.
- Yes. - Then why would you swear at them?
I won't do that.
You shouldn't have started.
Please give us a detailed plan on how you will change.
It would be a lie if I say I will never swear again.
Even if you fight, you shouldn't swear.
- You should never swear again. - Most people don't swear.
I will do my best not to use terrible swear words.
We keep telling you that you shouldn't swear.
I won't. I won't.
It might come out when I am upset, but I will suppress the urge.
How can you call yourself an adult if you don't have that control?
Do you think your wife is...
(A swear word)
Then why would you call her that?
That surprised me.
You surprised us.
Seriously. It doesn't make sense that you don't have that control.
Do you swear at your parents when you are upset?
- No, I don't. - Then you can suppress the urge.
You need to control yourself. We all live that way.
Okay.
Say what you want to say to your husband.
Look him in the eye after two weeks.
I hope you won't swear again...
in front of our son.
We might have a fight again,
but I hope you will talk to me after a day.
I hope we will tell each other "Thank you" and "I am sorry".
Let's live happily from now on.
Why do we need to wipe your wife's tears?
Tell us if you think it's a worry.
Se Jeong.
I hope their relationship will improve.
- I think it's a worry. - You think it's a worry.
It's a worry.
San Deul.
It's a worry. There are so many reasons.
You said that you have a son.
If his parents have a fight,
the son always sides with his mom, not his dad.
Let's say he learned swear words from his dad.
The situation that will unfold scares me.
I hope you would be careful from now on.
San Deul, don't swear at your dad.
It sounded like you were speaking from experience.
- I wasn't. - Okay.
I think it's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
As you have heard,
this is a heavy topic.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - Stop.
I think we made a record.
Please say a few words to your wife.
I am still thankful that you married me.
Thank you...
It should have been this way from the start.
Thank you for being nice to my parents.
I will try my best to stop swearing and smoking.
I will drink less.
I will do my best to become the husband you want.
I love you.
(I love you.)
I hope you will change and live as a loving couple.
How many votes did the worry get? Show us the result.
How many votes did it get?
It's over 100.
- Will it be 177? - 167.
- 187. - 167.
167.
157? 167.
(167 votes)
"I'm All Alone".
Hello.
I am Ko Byung Joon, an 18-year-old who is facing the biggest crisis.
I have a dad, a mom, and a sister,
but I really don't think I am a part of this family.
"My goodness, why won't it turn on? The computer isn't working."
"I am sure Byung Joon did it."
"Byung Joon, you put the remote somewhere else, right?"
"The remote is right here."
"Why would you scold me without looking?"
"I wouldn't have done that if you had behaved."
- What? - I feel bad for Byung Joon.
- I feel bad for Byung Joon. - I already feel bad for him.
You didn't even finish reading.
My family blames me...
every time something happens.
"Mom, I have a worry."
"I am struggling at school these days."
"Gosh, you always say that you are struggling."
"I wish you were half as great as your sister."
"Why is everyone so mean to me?"
This is what my sister says.
"I hate him without a reason."
(Is he adopted?)
Let's give Byung Joon a hug.
- Byung Joon. - I feel bad for him.
I can't live like this.
Please solve my worry.
Let's give him a hug.
Adults are like that.
"You did this, didn't you?"
When it is revealed that they were wrong,
only a few...
apologize for making a quick presumption.
Most do this.
"For goodness' sake."
They do this.
- Seriously. - They don't apologize.
That's right.
Right? I hope the adults will apologize to their children.
"Gosh, why is this here?"
They don't because they are embarrassed.
- Let's hear the full story... - I will give him a hug.
from Byung Joon.
- Byung Joon. - Please come on out.
(Whose worry involves a family that is cold towards him?)
It's Byung Joon.
(Falling down)
Byung Joon.
Come here, Byung Joon.
Sit here.
I knew you were trouble from the way you went down the slide.
(Carefree)
Please introduce yourself.
Hello, I am Ko Byung Joon and I am in 11th grade.
How cute!
- He is in 11th grade. - How cute!
Do you really think your family hates you?
They have zero trust in me.
Let's say something disappeared...
or broke.
Then they go, "You did this, right?"
One time, Dad's USB flash drive went missing.
I guess it contained important documents.
He looked for it everywhere, but he couldn't find it.
Your dad lost a USB flash drive...
and became anxious when he couldn't find it.
- Yes, he made us gather around. - How strange!
(How strange!)
Sir.
He must have thought you stole it to look at porn inside.
Does the folder have an inconspicuous name?
Go on.
He thought I had taken it...
and gave me a light beating.
My goodness.
I was so upset.
- I hadn't done it. - He must have been angry.
What happened in the end?
In the end,
he found it in his bag.
- What did your dad say? - What happened then?
"I wouldn't have misunderstood if you had behaved."
My goodness.
I don't get why he gave you a beating.
He treats my sister differently.
- Does he treat her differently? - Yes.
He really listens to my sister,
but he doesn't pay attention to what I have to say.
When I tell my parents about my struggles at school,
they say, "I don't know why you keep complaining."
This is upsetting.
In the beginning of the school year, everyone gets a new backpack.
I want one, too.
When I tell my mom, she says, "Use your sister's backpack."
- "Use this." - It's a women's backpack.
Then I would find out later...
that my sister got a new backpack.
That's upsetting.
- That's upsetting. - It really is.
Also,
the entire family gathers around for my sister's birthday...
no matter how busy everyone is.
It doesn't happen on my birthday.
Since when did your family act that way?
They acted that way ever since I was little.
Tell us everything that is on your mind.
Sometimes,
I wonder, "Don't I belong in this family?"
They shouldn't have had me...
so that they can live as a happy family of three.
- I don't know why they had me. - It must be hard.
Please stop touching the cushion.
(My goodness)
(The shape of the cushion makes it look weird.)
Let's change the cushions.
Even though he is cheerful,
he is under a lot of stress.
He keeps touching the cushion.
Why do you think your family acts that way?
My sister got perfect grades.
She got perfect grades.
She is someone who goes, "I can and I will."
- She studies diligently. - What about you?
I am not good at studying.
When I am treated differently,
I say, "You didn't do this to my sister."
Then Mom says, "Unlike you, your sister got good grades."
What happens when you and your sister fight?
When we swore at each other...
Did you swear at her?
She swore at me, too.
You shouldn't swear.
- It wasn't a terrible swear word. - You shouldn't swear.
It wasn't a terrible swear word.
Mom said, "You are younger than her."
"You shouldn't rebel against your older sibling."
"Even if she is in the wrong, don't say anything."
She is right with that one.
(My goodness)
The younger one shouldn't be that way.
Sun Joo's husband shouldn't be that way.
Sun Joo is older than you.
- Are you three years apart? - Yes.
They are four years apart.
Have you tried talking to your family...
about how you feel?
I have tried, but my mom said,
"Why are you being so sensitive over the smallest things?"
My sister said,
"No matter what happens,"
"I won't take your side."
- Why? - That's ridiculous.
You know,
- he is a very nice guy. - That's right.
He could have rebelled against his family.
Most boys in 11th grade don't talk to their families.
- That's true. - That's true.
Let's hear from his parents.
Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Who is the family that hates Byung Joon?)
Do you understand your son's worry?
No.
We have never ostracized Byung Joon...
- at home. - Of course you haven't.
Let me ask you a question on Dong Yeob's behalf.
This is about your USB flash drive.
(What was inside the USB flash drive?)
What was inside it?
It contained a certificate of authentication,
nothing else.
What else do you mean?
We thought it would be a certificate of authentication.
Right?
Why else would he give his son a beating?
- That's right. - It's not like...
a USB flash drive can walk.
Who else at home would do something like that?
Also, Byung Joon has a tendency to lose things.
In the end, you found it in your bag.
You should have beaten your bag.
You should have apologized to Byung Joon.
Instead of apologizing to my son,
- I said, "It was here." - It's exactly as Dong Yeob said.
That's right.
I might have apologized.
He says you treat his sister differently.
What do you think about that claim?
The fact that he thinks that way...
is my worry.
You don't treat your children differently.
No. I raise Byung Joon...
- without any expectations. - "Without any expectations"?
(She revealed how she really feels.)
That's how she truly feels.
(Shocked)
That's how she truly feels.
Why did you say that?
I love him unconditionally.
I cherished my daughter when she received good grades.
However, I cherished Byung Joon even when he received bad grades.
That's because you don't expect anything from him.
That's right. I emptied my heart.
"That's right."
(Mom?)
"That's right."
Take a look at his face.
Does he look stressed out?
I did wonder a bit about that.
He talked about being treated differently on his birthday.
His birthday is April 26. It's when all schools...
have midterms.
- Really? - When I make him seaweed soup,
he gets angry even though he doesn't study.
(He gets angry.)
"Mom, seaweed soup is bad luck for test takers."
- Hey. - You are picky.
Why did you say that when you didn't study?
Tell them. It really happened.
Since I am also the second child,
I understand how he feels.
It was upsetting to receive...
my older brother's old backpack.
Then my older brother got a new backpack.
- Right. - It goes both ways...
because my daughter only wore gray and black in her childhood.
She did it to share her clothes with Byung Joon.
My husband is a regular office worker.
- Then he shouldn't complain. - He acted cool then.
"This belonged to your sister."
"Okay, Mom."
Why did you act cool?
I bet he couldn't help but act that way.
He was being considerate of his mom.
I was like that, too.
Even though you say it's okay, you feel sad inside.
Byung Joon thinks he is compared to his sister...
because he gets bad grades.
That's not true.
Ever since he was little, he didn't study.
He lacks the effort and the brain.
She really emptied her heart.
His sister goes to her classes...
without a complaint.
Byung Joon cries and complains if he doesn't want to go.
He says I didn't listen to his worries.
I disagree.
He relieves stress by talking.
(Does he just like talking?)
- You want to come here, don't you? - He just talks about everything.
- He just talks. - It sounds like...
your mom has been treating you very nicely.
The more we hear from your mom, the less we sympathize with you.
- But... - Is there anything else?
- I did study, you see. - Right.
When I entered high school, I tried really hard to study.
- But it didn't work. - My grade went up by 60 points.
That's compared to my middle school grade.
- 60 points. - What was your grade?
- What was your grade? - What did you get in middle school?
How can your grade go up by 60 points?
I started getting tutored by the person who taught my sister.
Whenever I learn something new, he said, "Your sister didn't..."
"ask me these questions. So why do you?"
- The tutor said that. - That's bad.
I got scolded every time I got something wrong,
and I developed a habit of biting my nails.
It kept getting worse and I bit my nails until they bled.
- You were stressed out. - That really daunted you.
And Mom keeps saying things that lowers my self-esteem.
What does she say?
- That must make him sad. - I am not...
very tall, you see.
- Right. - "I'm not very tall, you see."
My mom always tells me.
"I fed you all the good things. So why didn't you grow?"
"It's because you don't sleep."
But I sleep really hard.
You sleep hard too?
Sleeping in the class doesn't count.
I don't sleep in the class.
- You have to sleep at night. - I sleep very well.
I never used to tell him these things. I started saying these...
only this year when he became a junior.
It seemed like he's given up his studies.
- But still... - You don't know yet.
- I thought he should at least grow. - He should grow.
I was determined to do everything to make him grow tall.
I can't give up everything.
(His feelings are constantly hurt.)
Let's talk to his elder sister.
Honestly, do you understand your brother's concerns?
Considering his personality, I can understand them.
Honestly, I think he's just being ungrateful.
What is your brother's personality?
He's very sensitive and soft-hearted.
But why do you say that you hate him for no reason?
Isn't that too harsh? You hate him for no reason.
Although I am sure you were just joking.
When I entered college, I moved out of the house.
Sometimes when I go home, there's strange energy in the house.
- Between your brother and your mom. - Yes.
When stressed out, my mom skips meals.
Sometimes when I go home, I find her being unusually thin...
or being extremely stressed out.
That makes me blame Byung Joon for what he's done to Mom.
And that's why I resent Byung Joon at times.
- He makes your mom lose weight. - Yes. And I believe...
Byung Joon hurts my mom's feelings too.
- Really? - How?
He has friends who are better off than us.
He'd talk about what his friends got and say that he wants it too.
When Mom says we can't afford it,
Byung Joon says, "You never did anything for me."
He says that.
- That's very wrong. - Come on, Byung Joon.
I will explain what happened.
I get 50 dollars as a monthly allowance.
- I need to pay for food, - It's not enough.
transportation, snacks, and everything else with that.
When I asked Mom if she can increase the allowance,
she said I don't have enough because I don't use it carefully.
- She doesn't listen to you. - Right. But I didn't waste it.
Did your sister get 50 dollars when she was a junior?
She carried Mom's credit card.
(That's not nice.)
- Mom's credit card? - What?
This is wrong. This is wrong.
- Is this true? - Please explain why.
When my daughter was a junior, she didn't even get an allowance.
When she was a senior, she had to attend tutoring classes and eat,
so I gave her my card.
She doesn't buy useless things like Byung Joon does.
- You are so mean to Byung Joon. - What has he bought?
What useless things has Byung Joon bought?
He buys those little Thomas trains or train rails.
- That's cute. - He also buys CDs.
- He orders them from abroad. - He buys Thomas at this age?
I know.
- Yes. - Does he play with it?
He orders them from abroad. We get so many parcels delivered.
The postman says, "You got a parcel, Byung Joon."
He knows Byung Joon.
I am serious.
The postman knows his name. What happened, Byung Joon?
He doesn't buy those with his allowance.
- Then? - He uses my card.
- He uses your card. - He's got my card information.
I don't only use her card. I used to buy with my own money.
- But it was too much. - You didn't have enough.
I just didn't have enough money to buy them.
(What?)
Wait.
(Se Jeong takes care of Byung Joon.)
- What is it? - He got hair on his face.
- You're a junior, right? - Yes.
- You shouldn't treat him like that. - Do you like younger boys?
(You shouldn't treat him like that.)
Do you want us to edit it out? Your girlfriend might hate it.
- It's okay. - Is it okay?
- So he's got a girlfriend. - He's got a girlfriend.
He has a girlfriend.
- By the way, I don't get it. - Now I get it.
- You have a girlfriend. - Yes.
Go hang out with your girlfriend, not with Thomas.
- But... - This is so frustrating.
I...
(You get me now, don't you?)
My sister also has hurt my feelings.
How did she hurt you?
Something depressing happened at the family meeting.
I couldn't cry in front of the family, so I went out to cry.
I went to my sister and told her about what happened.
When I got emotional again and cried, she said, "Stop crying!"
(She's feisty.)
Why couldn't you listen to what he has to say?
One time, she was wearing a dress and looking into the mirror.
When I said, "You look pretty," she said, "Get lost."
"Get lost."
She's going to be quite wild when she grows up.
Why did you do that? He was complimenting you.
Why did you say, "Stop crying"?
We were having a family party.
Dad is studying for something. That day, Mom said...
that she feels bad to see him studying at an old age.
And he started crying.
(Byung Joon started crying.)
(It doesn't sound like something to cry about.)
Why did you cry?
Byung Joon.
You felt sad that your dad was studying in his late years.
- It wasn't even about him. - Wait.
- Why did you cry? - When he mentioned it,
he said something bad had happened to the family.
He made it sound as if he felt gravely sorry about it.
You were just sad about the manner your sister talked to you.
- I didn't know he was studying. - You didn't know.
She brought it up in the presence of other members of the family.
- And it embarrassed you. - Yes.
All right. That's the explanation for "Stop crying" situation.
How about "Get lost"?
I thought I looked fat, so I got annoyed at him for saying that.
I wasn't annoyed at him.
I got annoyed by the way I looked in the mirror.
That's why I told him to get lost.
You didn't do anything wrong.
When you grow up a little more, you will understand her.
- Yes. - I can tell that Byung Joon...
- is rather sensitive. - Yes.
You have to be careful though.
If you tell him to get lost, he might cry again.
(Be nice to Byung Joon.)
Since this issue is brought up, why don't you...
tell us about the times when Byung Joon caused troubles?
Since he was little,
Byung Joon has been obsessed with theme parks.
- Theme parks. - Yes.
One time when he was in 6th grade, he went there all week long.
(He went to a theme park every day of the week.)
He got an annual membership.
He got up around 5 or 6am and left home by 6:30am.
And he came home after the park closed.
We live in Ilsan.
So he would come home around midnight.
- Right. - He went so often...
that the staff at the park...
recognized him and said, "You're here, Byung Joon."
You know everyone.
You know the postman and the staffs at the theme park.
He loves the rides at the theme park,
- but the parade is what... - The parade.
- he really likes. One time, - He likes that.
we booked the train to go to the province for New Year's Day.
On the morning of that day, he said he had to get a lesson.
It was time to leave, but he didn't come, so I called his tutor.
- Oh, dear. - You know what happened.
- He's busted. - He wasn't with the tutor.
There was a reason why I went there that day.
- What is it? - My dream is...
to become a performance director of a theme park.
- That's very detailed. - It was New Year's Day.
- On New Year's Day, - They do a special parade.
they have a Korean festival.
And that's really nice.
Simply admiring at the parade isn't everything I do.
I study which folklore...
they used as a motive for each performance.
I think about what they tried to express with fireworks.
I think about why the performance goes well with certain music.
- That's good. - He's very serious about it.
- Right? - He's amazing.
The fact that he's got such a dream at such an early age...
- is really great. - It's amazing.
Do your parents not like your dream?
They said, "How could you become that? Try it."
- So... - Then do it.
They challenged you, so just prove it to them.
- Right. - The same thing happened to me.
That's what we all did.
- The same thing happened to me. - It happened to all of us.
We've agreed that...
he would work on his grades until his junior year...
and that I'd send him to a class related to that.
But on his sophomore year, he went to talk to someone.
And that person suggested that he takes acting classes.
Since then, he and I have been having a conflict.
I am not saying that he shouldn't take those lessons.
- But he keeps pestering. - He's impatient.
In my opinion, even if he waits a little, he won't be too late.
If you want to direct a performance,
- you need to study. - You need to be smart.
When I have time,
I think about which performance would be nice to put on.
I come up with an idea and visualize it with a sketch.
He draws quite well.
- Did you draw that? - Yes.
You did well!
We don't have Disneyland in Korea.
If they ever build one in Korea,
it would look like that. He's talented too.
- What's that? - He draws well.
- He has talent. - Candles are...
very beautiful, you know?
Christmas candles are beautiful.
I drew a parade car with candles as a motive.
- That's lovely. - There are more sketches.
Let's check his drawings.
How can he be so good?
- It's lovely. - He's very creative.
That looks like a stage set.
It's titled "Dream of Adventure".
(She's frustrated.)
- What's that? - Is that your room?
Yes, that's my room.
- What's that? - Is that your room?
Yes, that's my room.
- He drew well. - I like your room.
This is why he bought Thomas.
(This explains why he bought the toy train.)
- He wants to work at a theme park. - He had his reasons.
That's why he's interested in toys like Thomas.
Now I understand.
Now we understand.
(It was an investment for his dream.)
- He's got Thomas and other toys. - That must be expensive.
(He's amazed.)
- It's great. - It's all his mom's money.
(Byung Joon is amazing.)
Yes. He bought everything using my card.
It seems like he's going to be someone.
- He's really great. - You see...
He's great.
When you find something you really want to do,
whether it's studying or working,
- you will work really hard. - Right.
Take celebrities for an example.
Let's say this celebrity was only interested in dancing.
One day, he becomes famous and gets fans abroad.
His Japanese fans beg him to visit Japan.
Then he would study Japanese really hard...
to talk to his Japanese fans.
He would study English too. And nobody told him to do any of it.
I know that he works hard even if nobody told him to.
(I understand that.)
But he's got exactly one year until the college entrance exam.
Until when do I have to wait for him to come around?
- College entrance exam? - Yes.
People around us always say...
that I don't have to worry because he's got a dream.
- Right. - Right.
But in order to achieve his dream,
- he needs to go to college. - Ma'am.
Actually, I understand...
why she is worried.
He wants to be a performance director.
She's not familiar with it. It's not a movie director.
By studying hard and getting qualifications,
Byung Joon needs to convince her.
But he's doing it the wrong way.
He's only asking her to trust him.
(His method is wrong.)
We are told...
that you prepared something...
- to show your family. - Did you prepare something?
- What is it? - I thought my family...
lacks imagination.
They only think about reality.
I wanted to take them back to their childhood...
- Take them back to their childhood. - for a moment.
But I think I might be the reason why they've lost their imagination.
He prepared something for his family to take them...
- back to their childhood. - He's lovely.
- Please show us. - I need to...
take off my socks first.
He took off his socks too.
He might slip.
I'm afraid you might get hurt.
(He warms up.)
My goodness.
(He splits his legs.)
(Their jaws drop.)
You said your dream was becoming a director.
- He's great. - Music, please.
I want to cheer for him.
(What did he prepare?)
(They are amazed.)
(As soon as the parade music plays,)
My goodness.
(Byung Joon dominates the stage.)
(Jumping)
He's really good.
(He's filled with happiness.)
(They are transported back to their childhood.)
He's amazing.
(You are watching the 18-year-old director Ko Byung Joon's parade.)
(He even does a back flip.)
Go, Byung Joon!
(Is he a prodigy?)
(How can anyone stop him from performing?)
(Everyone falls for Byung Joon's charms.)
Bravo!
(They give a standing ovation.)
(Will you support my dream now?)
They are giving him a standing ovation.
- Let's ask his sister. - That was amazing.
- Please say something. - Byung Joon is amazing.
- He's amazing. - What did you think?
How did you feel about it?
He's amazing.
- He really is. - He's amazing.
He's amazing.
- I was so overwhelmed watching him, - I know.
- and I nearly cried. - I almost cried too.
Did you know that he was such a good dancer?
Have you seen him perform like this?
Byung Joon never reads anything at home.
But he's always dancing like that in the living room.
Good job. You did amazingly.
Are we wrong for thinking that it's bad? He's a high school junior.
When he's in the living room, he's surrounded by his family,
so he's not nervous to dance.
- But there are so many people here. - There are many people here.
- And the floor is very slippery. - And there are celebrities here.
Don't you think he's very talented?
It's because I raised him well to be confident.
Right.
(Is she saying she made him so talented?)
My goodness.
A while ago, he said he lacks self-esteem.
If I had daunted him, do you...
- think he'd be that talented? - She's right.
- She's right. - She's right.
I think he's just being a crybaby about it.
When she talks to me,
she says she's supporting me...
because she doesn't want me to blame her.
- Hearing that makes me feel... - You feel pressured.
I feel anxious.
I dance hard, but...
tall people look great even when they just stretch an arm.
Because I am short, when I stretch my arm,
- it doesn't look as great. - That's not true.
- You were amazing. - You were unbelievable.
Your mom keeps insisting that you study...
because she thinks studying hard will...
help you cover up the disadvantages...
you have from not being tall enough.
She's saying that studying can be your insurance.
It's not like she's forcing you to study for the sake of studying.
She is supporting your dream,
and it's her opinion that studying can make you achieve your dream.
Now, I will talk from his perspective.
While preparing to become a singer, I realized...
that I was working towards a dream that seemed unrealistic.
I asked myself if I am confident to be happy as long as...
I get to sing even if I don't make any money off it.
I think Byung Joon would be happy...
as long as he gets to perform on stage.
Then perhaps it's right to support his dream,
whether he's a bad student or he buys strange things.
All right.
(She's right.)
We just watched Kim Se Jung's educational show,
"Dream of the Youth".
Thank you for your lecture.
She's Dr. Kim Se Jung.
- It was a great honor. - Thank you.
(I will cheer for you, Byung Joon.)
What would you like to say to your family?
I understand that you're worried about me walking...
in a different direction from other people. I am also scared.
I don't know what's going to happen to me.
But whenever I am scared,
I want you to tell me that even if it rains today,
tomorrow will be sunny. Tell me I shouldn't be too worried...
and I should keep working hard.
That's the last thing I want to say.
(It sounds like he's writing his will.)
What do you mean it's the last thing you want to say?
- Are you running away? - It sounds too serious.
Tell them you love them.
Mom, Dad, I love you.
I think you're the handsomest man, Dad. I love you.
Sister, you are beautiful. You are really beautiful.
Be confident. You are beautiful.
- Wait. - This is why she hates you.
(He laughs.)
Let's start with Min Gue.
- Is it a worry or not? - What do you think?
I don't think it's a worry.
I think it's a worry.
I think it's a worry too.
I support his dream too.
If they are stopping him because they just want him...
to go to a better college,
then I think it's a worry.
If you sympathize with Byung Joon, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- All right. - Stop.
Ma'am, please represent the family and say something to Byung Joon.
People are saying you are going to succeed,
so I believe you will succeed.
Go for it.
(Go, Byung Joon!)
Please reveal the result.
(The result)
("I'm All Alone")
- Did he get over 100 votes? - Did he get 56 votes?
(This story was a cheerful one.)
(Will he be able to get more than 167 votes?)
66.
It means you don't have to worry.
I think this person would be in much more pain than other people.
The title says it all.
"Both Are Crazy!"
(What is this about?)
Hello.
(That's the voice!)
I am a housewife in her 40s from Cheonan.
I get so frustrated whenever I go home these days.
"It's happening!"
"Home run!"
My husband is crazy about baseball.
He watches the main game, the highlights,
and a commentary show.
- He watches them again. - Again.
- He watches them all over again. - All over again.
(When will he stop?)
"That's it! Goal!"
"My darling is the best."
(What's this about now?)
My 15-year-old daughter...
is crazy about soccer.
They are both crazy.
(They went crazy together.)
"Is the TV yours? Let me watch the soccer. Move."
"The game is starting soon. Move."
"No. This game is so important."
"I need to watch the baseball game. Go away!"
I want to kick both of them out.
"Honey, help me with this."
"Hey! You can't throw the ball like that."
"Honey, can you help me?"
"Just one more goal!"
"Go, boys!"
- I think I am... - He's so good.
invisible in this house.
The father and daughter are both crazy. What do I do?
Please help me.
Her husband is into baseball, and her daughter is into soccer.
Please come on out.
(Who is the lady whose husband and daughter are crazy about sports?)
She's young.
(Jeong Seung Shin)
(Hello.)
When did your daughter and husband start playing sports?
My husband likes all kinds of sports,
but the problem is the baseball season.
The baseball games start around 5 or 6 when he's off work.
- At 6pm. - Right. It starts at 6pm.
He enters the house watching his cell phone.
He turns on the TV as soon as he gets home.
- He turns on his laptop. - Laptop too?
- Yes. - But the TV is on.
You can only watch one game on TV.
He watches other games on his laptop.
- Other games. - Yes.
He's not only watching his favorite team's game?
No. There is his favorite team,
but he watches all games.
- He must be a huge fan. - He wants to watch every game.
- The game ends around 9:30 or 10pm, - Right. It plays for about 3 hours.
and if overtime, it ends after 10pm.
From then, he starts watching three broadcasting stations' highlights.
- Right. - If you watch sports channels,
there's something like "I Love Baseball". He watches that too.
- It's on every day. - Yes.
There's no game on Monday.
That's what you think,
- but on Monday, - Is he watching the week's games?
he watches a debate show on baseball.
- I know what you mean. - That's what he watches.
- He watches that too? - He's not even a professional.
That's what he watches on Monday.
(He's crazy about baseball.)
But the interesting thing is her 15-year-old daughter.
- Not so many girls like soccer. - My daughter likes soccer.
I live in Cheonan.
She'd go to Seoul, Suwon or Asan.
She doesn't go often, but she tries to go at least once a month.
She's just like her dad.
She tries to watch every show.
She can't have cell phone at school,
so when she comes home, she searches on her cell phone.
If anything happened to the boys...
- You mean soccer players? - Right.
She searches the game schedules,
and the news on the internet when she comes home.
That's what they do at home.
- Is she in the seventh grade? - Yes.
It's actually a pretty sound habit for both of them.
That's what they say.
- They say it's sound. - Why can't you accept it?
My husband said it's not like he's out drinking.
- It's not like he's smoking. - He smokes.
Oh, never mind.
The problem is that there's no communication between the family.
When my husband comes home around 5 or 6om,
they only watch TV.
What about when you dine out?
Even when we dine out, they only talk about what they like.
Honestly, I'm not interested in sports at all.
I don't even know how many players are there in soccer and baseball.
Really? You should learn.
You need to know.
No. They only talk about their own things.
My husband even turns on a baseball game on his cell phone.
- He places it on the table. - And?
He glances at it.
- While he's talking? - Yes.
Who are you more concerned with among the two people?
I'm worried about my husband, but I'm more worried about my daughter.
- Because she needs to study. - Yes.
- She's a student. - She's only grade seven.
Maybe your daughter wants to work in a soccer related field.
No. Her ultimate goal is to marry her boy.
She must be a big fan of a soccer player.
If she actually does, it'd be great.
- Right. That's not bad. - She has a goal.
Let's meet the husband and daughter. Hello.
Hello.
I can tell he loves baseball.
Do you understand your wife's worry?
Well, that's my only hobby, and a way to relieve stress.
There are probably people who like baseball and soccer here.
I don't think it's a worry.
(She's disappointed.)
What about the daughter? Do you understand your mom's worry?
No.
- Hello. - I relieve the stress I get...
from studying by watching soccer.
I feel the greatest happiness of my life when I meet the boys.
(The greatest happiness of her life)
Mom keeps telling me to study,
and stop following the boys.
Honestly, I don't get it.
Who do you think is worse between you two?
Of course, it's my daughter.
- What about the daughter? - What about you?
Of course, it's my dad.
- Why? - Why? Why do you say that?
Dad watches the same game over and over.
I don't get that. I only watch the game once,
and that's the end of it.
You're done after you watch it in person?
Why do you watch several channels at once?
Baseball fans would understand. The reason I watch five channels is...
You watch five channels at once?
- Yes. - Do you divide the screen in four?
He watches on laptop.
I divide the laptop screen in 4, and watch 4 games,
and watch one game on my cell phone.
(He could become a coach.)
You must watch the flow of the game.
You must watch the important moment...
- Right. It's different. - to feel the joy and fun of it.
Even though you watched it all,
why do you watch the highlights again at night?
It's same as how women watch...
the replay or drama or variety shows.
You're saying it's pretty much the same.
What's your favorite team?
I'm from Hampyeong, South Jeolla Province.
- Tigers? - I was a fan of Haitai,
but now I cheer for Tigers.
I was a fan of Sun Dong Ryul, and Lee Jong Beom.
I like all players...
especially An Chi Hong and Kim Ho Ryeong.
I think the daughter likes soccer because of the players.
At first, I became a soccer fan because of them.
Right. Who do you like now?
I like Lee Jeong Hyeop from Busan IPARK.
- Lee Jeong Hyeop. - Yes.
Oh, my.
- That's him on the screen. - My goodness.
- That's Lee Jeong Hyeop. - She only saw the picture.
- She's so cute. - We only put up a picture.
- Are you shy? - Even the picture makes you happy?
- She's cute. - Yes.
Were you aware that your daughter likes Lee Jeong Hyeop?
Of course. He knows her name too.
- Really? - How?
- How? - How does he know her name?
The delivery man knows Byung Joon too.
- Byung Joon. - Byung Joon.
- He knows Byung Joon too. - That's right.
Show me the picture of the daughter's room.
(What is this?)
(Ta-da.)
(Is this really a high school girl's room?)
There's Lee Jeong Hyeop's uniform.
It's on the back too.
(It's making her sweat.)
That's Son Heung Min.
She used to be a fan of Son Heung Min.
It doesn't look like a girl's room.
That's what Byung Joon's room should be like.
Your mom's worried...
that you're not studying.
Actually I'm not interested in studying at all.
I don't try to study. I have exams in nine days.
We get a study period before the exam.
I don't think my grades are that bad if I read before the exam.
How are your grades?
There are 356 students in school,
and I'm 204th.
I honestly tell her to be the average.
Reaching the average is really hard.
"Reaching the average is hard."
There are so many smart students at my school.
- You picked the wrong school. - Yes.
But you had a choice...
of studying well...
to persuade your mom.
I've tried, but my grades don't reflect my effort.
I relieve the stress I get from studying through soccer.
What you're saying doesn't make sense...
because you don't study.
Where do you get stress from?
I've never seen her reading a book.
- Tell me. - Where do you get stress from?
I focus during the exam period.
You relieve stress from that moment?
- Yes. - Stress from cram.
- Yes. - Father must be worried...
because your daughter's not studying.
She's beyond the limit.
- Your daughter is? - Yes.
You're beyond the limit too.
Recently, she told me her friends don't hang out with her anymore.
I thought it was strange.
She has good personality, so I asked her why.
She said, "Everyone's busy studying because it's exam period."
It's normal for them to study for the exam.
That stressed her. I was baffled.
Explain it please.
During the exam week,
my friends only study during the break or at lunch time.
Are you the only person who likes soccer in your class?
- I dragged one person. - You did?
What do you do?
My husband has his own business.
I own a barley rice restaurant in Cheonan.
- You own a barley rice restaurant? - That sounds delicious.
My husband's business isn't going well,
so he stopped helping me out financially from this year.
I need to make a living by running the restaurant,
but he'd turn the laptop on,
and doesn't care whether a customer comes in or not.
He's deep into the game.
Does he help you when it's crowded?
He does, but...
He can't focus because he's watching the game.
Yes. He can't focus because he's into something else.
I need to cook in the kitchen and do the dishes.
- You're also busy serving. - Yes.
I do all the work alone.
You should help her when it's busy.
You can watch the highlights at night.
Right.
Watching it live is important.
She might think differently,
but it's not as bad as she said.
I think she exaggerated it.
(She exaggerated it.)
Why are you so deep into baseball?
My business isn't going well,
so I'm trying to relieve stress from it.
That's my only...
- joy and hobby. - Your joy.
He has so many ways to relieve stress.
So many ways?
In the early years of our marriage,
- he was crazy about StarCraft. - I see.
He also plays golf as well as a single golfer.
A few years ago, he was deep into the mobile game called Animal Pang.
- Animal Pang. - He watched baseball games...
in baseball seasons while enjoying those.
- So... - What about house chores?
He can see what he has to do,
but he never helps me until I ask him to.
For example, when I ask him to do the dishes,
he says okay and does the dishes.
However, he's into the baseball game.
- He watches the game on his phone. - I see.
So he does it half-heartedly, and I have to do it again.
Don't you think you should help her with house chores?
When she tells me to do the dishes or throw garbage out,
I do the things she wants me to do.
It's not that I never do house chores.
But you don't do that until she asks you to.
(Laughing)
She wants you to do it even when she doesn't tell you.
- But you don't swear at her, right? - No.
What if he helped you a lot, but he swore at you?
- No. - Right?
- That's not acceptable. - No.
- No swearing! - Some have both problems.
Let's hear from their daughter from a third person's perspective.
He doesn't do anything.
- You think he doesn't do anything? - He doesn't do any house chores.
One day, my mom, my elder sister, and I...
slept over at my aunt's house.
We slept out for one night.
My mom asked him to hang the duvet in the washing machine...
as we left home.
When we came back home next day,
the duvet was still in the washing machine.
So my mom was very angry at him.
He didn't hang it when it had been washed?
That's right.
(Was it too much?)
I guess there are many times you endure the distress alone.
That's right. I just endure it.
There's nothing I can do to relieve stress.
How is your health? It might've damaged your health.
I'm not in good shape because I work too much.
I have varicose veins on my legs because I stand all day long.
- Varicose veins. - Also...
The doctor of the oriental clinic I go to said...
I should come to the clinic at least once a month...
instead of coming only when I have too much pain.
He could have said he would watch the restaurant...
- so I can go to the clinic. - That's right.
But he's never said that to me since we opened the restaurant.
- He's not considerate. - That's right.
Sir, I'm sure you knew that the work is tiring,
but did you know about her health condition?
Yes, of course I know that.
Running a restaurant is very tiring.
And it's our first time too.
I know that she has many health problems.
So I do feel bad,
but I don't know how to express my feelings.
That's just an excuse.
If you can't express your feelings,
you can at least hear what she says.
- As I heard them, I realized... - That's right.
- that they lack communication. - Right.
(They don't communicate much.)
Do your parents talk to each other often?
No, they don't talk much.
It could be because they're tired.
However, it feels like they have given up on each other.
They rarely speak to each other.
I wish they could welcome me back with excitement...
when I come back home, but...
Do you talk with your parents often?
I often tell my mom and dad...
about the things that happened at school...
or when I went to watch a soccer game.
But they always react halfheartedly.
They always show the same reaction.
So I started to hate talking to them and I feel lonely.
I became a bit neglectful of her because of the restaurant.
- It's because of work. - I get too tired after work.
Besides, all she talks about is soccer.
So I tend to react halfheartedly.
- I say the same things. - "Did you see the players?"
- Exactly. - Because you don't know soccer.
80 percent of what she says is about soccer.
I'm very curious about something.
Do you two know what her hobby is by any chance?
Watching dramas.
- Does she watch dramas? - You can't call that a hobby.
- Sir, do you know what it is? - In the past,
she enjoyed aerobics dance.
- She hasn't done it... - She did it to improve her health.
That's right. It wasn't for keeping her figure.
She used to like aerobics dance.
(He didn't have to say that.)
- She hasn't... - Why did you have to say that?
- What about now? - Nowadays,
she doesn't have much free time.
(He's unbelievable.)
People like her who seem strong and healthy...
can't get back up once they fall down.
They don't stop until they fall.
- That's right. - Your mom is calling for help.
- It's time to see her feelings. - Exactly.
What are the things you want from the two of them?
During the baseball season,
our restaurant is very busy too.
Help me a little... I won't tell him to stop watching the games.
If he pays attention to me as much as to baseball games,
he could see me working hard.
I wish he could watch it less and help me more actively.
Don't you want anything from your daughter?
I just want her to study hard.
What ranking do you wish for her to go up to among 356 students?
- She's ranked 204th now. - Please be honest.
I always tell her just to be average.
Then, you just have to go up only 50 rankings.
Do you think you can make your mom's wish come true?
I'll try, but it's hard for me to get good grades.
- You really aren't confident. - That's right.
She's honest.
What is your dream?
I want to become...
a sports announcer.
- A sports announcer? - A sports announcer?
You should study hard to become an announcer.
(It looks like she knows that.)
You can't become an announcer just because you're good with words.
I want to say something to her daughter.
Some of my fans told me...
that they set up goals for me.
"Se Jeong, I got better grades..."
"in order to go to see your concert."
"I got admission to this university thanks to you."
Some of my fans said that to me.
They said they could do that because of me.
Those fans still remain in my memory.
If you tell the same thing to the soccer player,
he'll probably feel the same way as I do.
"Is that true? My fan studied hard for me..."
"and got better grades in school." He'll remember you clearly.
I think it's a good way of planning your study.
Dr. Kim Se Jung is really amazing.
The psychologist Kim Se Jung.
(Dr. Kim Se Jung is on a roll today.)
If you have some free time, what would you like to do?
You can spend the entire day doing whatever you want to do.
I'd like to... I think I'm going to cry if I say this.
I said quite often...
that other people get into a car accident so easily.
- But it never happens to you? - Because you want to get some rest?
Yes. I wished I would get into a car accident...
and be hospitalized for a few days...
so I can get some rest without worrying about anything.
That's how much she wants a rest.
She wishes for an accident.
Mothers always say this when they go to bed.
"I wish I won't wake up tomorrow." It's because they are tired.
- I'm really exhausted. - You've reached that point.
(For whose sake am I living like this?)
- She's exhausted. - She's overloaded now.
- Please help her a lot. - I'll do that.
- Help your mom a lot. - Okay.
Okay. Let's start the voting.
- Shall we begin with Se Jeong? - Do you think it's a worry?
There's no way she can relieve stress.
Her husband and her daughter...
relieve stress by watching baseball and soccer games.
Who would understand how she feels?
I think it's a worry.
I see. She got one vote.
I don't think it's a worry.
Her husband and daughter feel apologetic to her...
and said they will try.
However, I hope the two of them will comfort her...
as she's tender-hearted even though she pretends to be strong.
- I don't think it's a worry. - I see.
- Did you think from her viewpoint? - Yes.
Even when you've heard her saying she wishes to have a car accident?
- But still... - Her family members are regretting.
- They're regretting. - You're so cool-headed.
You're also cold-hearted.
- All right. - With that pretty face, right?
- San Deul. - San Deul.
I think it's a worry. Right.
I think the lack of communication is the biggest problem.
I think it's a worry too.
- Of course. - Right.
You should say that unless you want to get scolded by Yeong Ja.
No way.
While listening to her,
I wanted to go to her restaurant to help her.
- It broke my heart. - We'd make a big hit.
- Gong Chan will go there tomorrow. - What?
I'll be there.
Gong Chan is so nice. He said he wants to help her.
I only thought of eating at her restaurant.
- I couldn't think of that. - You think differently.
She was thinking about the food.
- I think it's a worry too. - I'm the only one who doesn't.
I think it would be nice if you find something...
that the whole family can enjoy together.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop! - Time's over.
Please say a word to your wife...
and your mom.
Honey.
I realized that I paid too little attention to you.
It'll be hard for me to quit it overnight,
but I'll try to watch it less and help you with the work.
I'll try not to stress you anymore.
I love you.
You said you like to watch baseball games live.
I hope you will enjoy watching your wife live...
more often from now on.
- Okay. - Say a word to your mom.
Mom, first of all,
I will study hard.
- She's cute. - Let's talk more often.
We'll help you whenever you go through a hard time.
So please tell Dad, my sister, or me...
about how you feel any time you want.
I love you.
Please show us the result of "Both Are Crazy!"
(The result)
The last digit.
Could it be over 100? It's over 100.
Could it be 168? If so, she'll win.
(The current winner "Is This Real?" got 167 votes.)
- No way. - Is it 148?
- That's still a lot of votes. - Right.
Good job.
The winner of this week is "Is This Real?"
Congratulations.
We will give you a prize money.
Until the day we are all worry-free...
Hello will continue to counsel you.
Thank you!